Coming Home..

I'm going home

To the place where I belong Where your love has always been good enough for me

I'm running from you know I think you got me all wrong

I don't regret this life I chose for me

Song by Daughtry - "Home"

So I'm coming back this weekend, it's been almost a year since I've been gone and no words can express how excited I am.

I'm anticipating the moment where I get to see all the smiling, familiar face again, to have a good laugh with my wonderful friends, to catch up on everything's that's happened since I've been gone, to have dad's home cooked food again, to be in my old room and sleep on my old bed, to taste the yummy Tanuki Cave jap food which I've been craving for, to take someone back to kindergarten with bball, to stroll down mission bay with a tripple cone movenpick ice cream... can't wait to see you guys soon =)

Lesson Learnt Part II

Never attempt to paint the patio ceiling with a paint brush and ladder! That's an accident waiting to happen... Use a paint roller instead. *sigh* wish I knew earlier...

Balance

The good life is the middle way
Between ambition and compassion
Between action and reflection
Between company and solitude
Between hedonism and abstinence
Between passion and judgment
Between the cup of coffee
And the glass of wine.

-- Jay McInerney

Hmm I think…
The good life is the middle way
Between failures and accomplishments
Between illusion and reality
Between constraints and freedom
Between inelegance and grace
Between fate and choice
Between a wild storm and serene sounds of the ocean on a fine day.

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Can't believe Tony almost made me cry in public... Happy tears though.
Thanks so much, you guys the best =) Just knowing that despite everyone being all so busy... but still took the time to make this small book of msgs and cds... it melts my heart! haha

Anna - 3 words: miss you heaps!

T-Man, keep up the rhymes, you've got talent n u knw it *respect* don't let those haters get u down =P

Su, got an idea 2 get paul to do some work around the apartment - BOYCOTT! hehe

Paul - don't work let DTT wrk u too hard ;) hope you're keeping up with running, cos i'm picturing a rematch when i get back hehe

Judy, thanks gal I'm gona stay away from the dumplings, hehe n thanx for the diet tip ;)

Thanks Tony – even though the msg book was wrinkled haha…

Miss you all!

Lesson Learnt

Always follow proper cooking instructions for pre-made frozen food packs... umm... especially frozen pork dumplings!

黑或白

Recently I’ve noticed that I want things to be either "Black" or "White". "Grey" seem to be often eliminated from the equation. It’s either "right" or "wrong"; you either "agree" or "disagree" and "need" or "don't need".

But with more things that I see, and as I learn and grow, the more difficult it is to draw the line between black & white... appropriate or inappropriate... ying & yang? Sure, I know what society deems to be right or wrong, black v.s. white... but the boundary for which I draw for myself has gradually become hazy, and far fetched. Reminds me of when we used to jog around mission bay and you see a point that seem so close, but as you run along the winding roads… it is much further than we had anticipated.

So close, yet so far away – just like the line between black and white, as much as we’d prefer it to be, it is never quite as clear as grey.

温柔是一种立场

温柔是个美丽的词汇。温柔适用于女性。温柔是女性成长中的一个慢慢变得清晰的概念。它通常是当女人面对男人时才会做出的一种性情选择。
　　字典上说，温柔多用来形容女性。那可能是因为女性肌理细腻而柔软，便产生了温柔这个词汇并赋予它一种物质的感觉。于是便派生出了诸如柔情似水、小鸟依人一类的词汇，使温柔变得更加地形象化和世俗化。想想那是种怎样的情形。女人真的喜欢那样吗？
　　世间没有绝对的温柔。也没有绝对温柔的女性。其实在某种意义上，温柔不过是男人对女人的一种理想，所以他们总是用温柔要求和期待着女性。他们大概认为只有温柔的女人才是真正的女人、合格的女人。但是他们不会去想，温柔对女人来说，就意味着丧失个性。还是字典上说，温柔即温和而柔顺，当然温和不失为女性的一种好性格，但女人为什么要柔顺呢？柔顺亦即服从。即是说女性很少有她的立场、她的观点，甚至她的行为。因为她只有对男人俯首贴耳，才能符合男人的标准，成为他们理想的女人。而到了今天的时代，没有个性的人已经是落伍的了。所以温柔在今天也许并不是一个好词。当然我这样说并不是鼓励女人都去和男人对立，我只是希望女人在爱着她们的男人的时候，千万不要失去自我。
　 事实上温柔是相对的。像世间所有的事物那样，在任何具体的女性身上，哪怕是最最温柔的女性，温柔也不会是她们的全部。她会有温柔的时刻，多一点或少一点，但是她决不会永远温柔永远顺从，因为她也是一个现实的人，她也会愤怒，也会狂躁，也会发火，也会喊叫。
　　永远的温柔会让女人窒息。而且，不仅她会窒息自己，还会窒息那些以温柔压迫她的男人们。想想吧，一个男人如果总是生活在女人的柔情似水中，是不是等于被一把钝刀一点一点地切割着生命？那又是怎样的一种残酷。
　　比起温柔，我更喜欢体贴这个词汇。因为体贴更实际、更具体。体贴是一种真正的关切，那是在用自己的心去设身处地地忖度他人的心情和处境，并给予关怀和爱护。而温柔有时候却更形而上，更像一种难以名状的幻觉。
　　温柔是一种选择。选择对于女人来说很重要。这不仅仅是一种非常个人化的生存意愿，而且几乎已经成为了一种时尚。这便是女权。女权的意义已经不单是拥有社会的存在权，还要拥有一种生活的选择权。选择的权利才是真正的自我意志的体现。你在你的性情上，可以选择温柔，也可以选择其他的情绪状态，只要那是你自己的选择。
　　当然无论如何，温和与柔顺是美妙的。像水一样，流动着，并浸润滋养着你的性情、意识和感觉。只是，女人在奉献温柔的时候，最好不要忘记自我，不要忘记一个女人所应当拥有的那种女性的立场。
　　温柔也是一种立场，但决不是女人的全部。

- 凤凰网